I am 19 years old, for reference. My parents are not officially divorced, legally they are still together, but they live apart. Their childhood marriage was messy and traumatic as hell for me. All my childhood I attended their loud arguments and often participated in them to side with one of my parents. I also participated in them to "hear the truth," as my father used to say. My father moved out 4 years ago, and their arguments gradually died down (at least I wasn't present for them).
Since there was no formal divorce, my time was never divided between the two houses, and I always stayed in my original home, my mother's, I guess. I saw him, of course, but then I would just come home. I never considered my father's house "home." My father has a bit of an arrogant temper, and it's hard to be with him for long periods of time without getting annoyed. I can get more enjoyment out of spending time with him if it is spaced out. I know this sounds bad, and I do love my dad, but it's true. What should I do to help the situation? I mean, the obvious thing would be to spend more time with him, and I will, but sometimes it's just a weird situation.